Welcome to The Bully Pulpit, a blog about bullying.
If you have found your way to my blog on bullying, either through a word search or possibly by word of mouth, I suspect that you have more than a passing interest in the subject of bullying.
Maybe you’ve been bullied in the past, and the pain still lingers.
Maybe you’re being bullied right now, and you wish it would stop.
Maybe someone you know is being bullied, and you don’t know what you can do to help.
Maybe you just want to talk.
I am not a professional in the mental-health field. I have no special training. I am not qualified to offer professional counsel. I am a writer by profession who has discovered, at many key points in my life, that words have tremendous power. Hurtful words — like those hurled by someone who intends to cause harm — can inflict great suffering. But words of love and support, offered by fellow travelers on this very difficult path toward healing, can bind up even the deepest wounds. I know. I’ve seen it happen in my own life. And I want to share it with you.
I offer this blog as a venue for you to share your story with others who are going through similar experiences. When did the bullying start, and what form has it taken? How many people are involved? How have your teachers, parents, friends and others responded? What has been most hurtful about your experience? What has been most helpful? What do you wish other people knew? What do you wish they understood?
Along the way, I will be weighing in regularly with ideas, insights, prompts, etc., to keep the conversation going.
In my case, my bullies were my two older siblings. But as anyone who has ever been bullied knows, bullying hurts — no matter who’s doing it. The more we share our stories together, the likelier it becomes that we will discover that we have many more commonalities in our stories than differences.
I have no real ground rules, because I want you to speak freely. I ask only that everyone remember that we are all friends here. Let us treat one another gently, with respect and compassion.
A quick word about the name of this blog, “The Bully Pulpit.” Yes, the pun is very much intended. The dictionary defines bully pulpit as “a public office or position of authority that provides its occupant with an outstanding opportunity to speak out on any issue.” This, then, is your bully pulpit. This is your opportunity to speak out about bullying. More importantly, it’s your opportunity to be heard.
I am so glad you have decided to join us. To get started, go to the section titled, “Scroll here for more posts,” and choose a topic that interests you. You’ll notice that every post includes a question for you, the reader. Please feel free to respond to that question, if you like. But you may prefer to write about something else that relates to the post. Either way is fine.
And if you find hope and healing here, I invite you to pass the word along to your friends and acquaintances, so that they, too, can know the power that comes from speaking up.
Welcome, and God bless. You are not alone. There is hope. Someone does care.
© 2012, Ann Graham Price. All rights reserved.
My 2 sisters have been shunning me for years. My younger sister is influenced by my older sister. My older sister is downright evil, cruel & venomous. She lies & fabricates to turn everyone against me . When my father died 6 years ago she never let me step foot in her house again. She & my younger sister at the funeral party attacked me psychological in the kitchen. They said I’m killing my mom from having extra problems & said my moms calendar is full of appts for my brother. It is true my brother & I have a severely disabling mental illness . Part of this is linked to mental illness discrimination. I recently started getting shunned by my husbands brother & his wife. They usually have thanksgiving & we are not invited. My older sister is having thanksgiving & my entire famy , including my mom, & cousins from out of town who I thought were my friends . They didn’t tell me they are coming out. My sister has villainized me so all the others have joined forces with her . My niece won’t even respond if I call or wish her happy birthday. My older sister gives me & my kids regifts or trash that I wouldn’t even give to the goodwill. My son cried one time it was so insulting. Last thanksgiving I wished her happy thanksgiving , she said nothing about the holiday and accused me of stealing her coats from high school. At my fathers funeral party, a yearbook was missing & she scapegoated me for 2 years. It was found but she never bothered to tell me . My son & daughter are also shunned by 14 family members because I am being shunned. Regretfully the kids of the victim get punished too. Even my mother buys into the fabrications & dismisses the lies.
It is so painful I want to get a frontal lobotomy to take away the pain.
Is there any civil or legal action I can pursue?
Hi, Donna.
You may or may not remember posting this comment on the Bully Pulpit several years ago, which shortly thereafter became dormant. I apologize for taking so long to respond. I don’t know if you still need a response to this particular question, or if you’ve moved on, but here goes.
I am not an expert in the legal field, so I am not qualified to offer legal advice. What I can tell you is that, over the years, I have had to temporarily detach from family members when the dynamics became too toxic and hostile for me to handle. This is a very personal decision, and it is not my place to suggest whether this is something that you should or should not do. However, now that I am making this blog active again, I will be writing about disengaging from family dysfunction. If you are still interested, please feel free to check back in periodically for new blog posts on this and many other topics.
I hope you, your husband and your children have been able to find peace of mind in the midst of your own family’s dynamics.
Best wishes,
Ann